For Such A Time As This

imageIv’e been thinking for a while to share with others so this is the beginning of this journey – so far I’ve had a full life full of some amazing moments, and some downright painful moments. I just want to share a bit about myself so you can get a feel for who I as a person, where I have been and where I feel I am heading.

Firstly God is what gets me through, gives me strength and guidance -the compass for my soul, the facilitator for my life -and there have been moments in my life where this hasn’t been so (more on that another time).

I have an amazing, gentle Godly husband (been together 2 years) – this is my 3rd marriage, yes 3rd after 2 painful marriages (which you will hear more about another time) and several painful relationships.

I have four children aged 23 my son and 3 girls aged 20, 15 and 8. one of my children has Autism and a psychotic illness which has  been a journey into deep, dark waters – with moments of unexpected joy also. I have an angel baby who is with the Lord and would be almost 17 now if she was here with us – the year I lost her was one of the hardest in my life. (more on that later)

I have 3 beautiful step-children  aged 16, 12 and 9. Blending a family with so many children and several with varying special needs has been a hard yet rewarding journey – sometimes giving my husband and I exhaustion we never thought imaginable but sometimes such unexpected moments of love and laughter.

I am just coming to the end of studying a diploma in Counselling and I also have a diploma in Children’s Services –  I’m just exploring what to do next. Maybe work as a play therapist? a pastoral care support worker? or counselor in another area? God knows – not me. I have just started a few subjects at Tabor to up some of my skills – I do love the adventure of learning.

I have worked in childcare for many years and  enjoyed this chapter of my life but I know soon a new chapter is beginning. This last year has seen me as a carer mainly for my daughter with special needs and that has been all consuming – I have always done it all – but have recently realized that getting support for her is not a failure on my part but a step forward in supporting her. ( but more on that later ).

I have been involved in many things over the years – in churches, in ministries, in organisations, jobs, relationships where I have been; where I needed to be – and many times where I really shouldn’t have been. I have a passion now for prison ministry – people in prison and people affected by this – but for a long time I was angry and never thought I would feel compassion for this -I feel it is ironic that this is where I find myself.

I have been on a journey where I need to learn to have quiet moments which is not easy for me as I love business – but stillness, quiet – is necessary – I have several chronic illness issues, have had cancer, 12 broken bones, and have recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia – this has taken me on a journey that has been frustrating where I have felt I cant do everything i want to or that I think I need to.

Life throws so much at us all and we all have a story to tell, I want to share some of my story – to invite others to share with me – to inspire and encourage you to be the best you can be.

“For such a time as this” Esther 4:14

Blessings Skye x


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We are God’s creation – of worth, saved by Grace

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Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for YOU, declares the LORD.” My sweetest friends, make the time to be still in the crazy busyness of modern day life. God is a God of grace – remember this next time you don’t feel worthy or make what you feel is a mistake, a bad choice, or a wrong turn – we all have these moments, we all know how this feels. It reminds me of my GPS, sometimes when I drive past the street I’m heading towards and it says ‘wrong way, go back’ – I have to be listening to make the adjustment to get where I’m heading if I want to reach my destination. There are other times when I’m heading somewhere and my GPS offers me a quicker, easier option, that I may not have noticed – with God we can always redirect our course to focus on him (Psalm 37:23 “The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delight in him”).  God’s love is unconditional full stop, no debate, and nothing to fear (1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love”). God is waiting to pour out his love on us not his punishment!! If your heart is like mine and it is for the people in your life and you want to bless them  remind them of their value and worth to God and to you – or just hold them close to your heart quietly in prayer and love (Women can pray and be God’s powerhouse – Mary the mother of Jesus, the Samaritan woman by the well, Elizabeth, Sarah, Naomi & Ruth, Esther (Esther 4:15-16), Deborah, Hannah, Anna, Abigail, Manoah”s wife, The wise woman of Tekoa (2 Samuel 14:12 – 13), Wise woman of Abel-Bethmaach (2 Samuel 20:16-21), The Shunammite Woman ( 2 Kings 4:9-10), Mary Magdalene, Pricilla and I’m sure there are others as well!! “My Lord – I love the person who is reading this and I wante to share and give you a moment to hear this and breathe, remember to be still – God has a perfect time for everything (Ecclesiastes 3). I want their life to be amazing, blessed beyond their wildest dreams, full of joy and your peace when the pain comes (Psalm 30:1-5 “joy comes in the morning”). Let your word be a light under their feet guiding rhem in their journey through life (Psalm 119:105). Protect them always, hold them in your safe hands when the storms of life hit. Let rhem know they are never alone – you will hide them in your love and protect them (Psalms 34:8) let them know when they walk with You, they will always be safe. Amen”. You are of worth, you are smart, kind, beautiful and important – God created you “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” Psalm 139:14. When life feels overwhelming remember the betrayal of others last but a moment but the grace and mercy of God lasts an eternity


Blessings Skye X

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Just Breathe

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens: 
Ecclesiastes 3:1

What has your week looked like, your month? Is every day busy? Are you running from one thing to the next? Is your paperwork a pile of crazy? your emails in the 1000’s, washing piling up, children, appointments, work commitments, life feeling insane with busyness.

This has been me lately – sometimes I forget to take the time I need, to focus on self-care – then I start to feel easily irritated, anxious or easily annoyed. Exhaustion kicks in and my health declines… this is a reminder to slow down, take time for myself (which I haven’t been doing!! And now I’m struggling / sick / have hit a wall).

We are all busy – we live in a culture full of fast food, information at the touch of a button, microwave food in minutes that isn’t quick enough! We work, want our children to do music, dance and sport because we don’t want them to miss out. As women (and some men) we want the right to work, raise the children and have time to eat well and work out!! When we don’t meet the standards we set for ourselves, that we feel society sets for us we can fall in a heap, feel like failures, sit in pile of exhaustion, depression and anxiety.

This is not how we are called to live – the bible talks about a time for everything – and at different stages of life we will give different parts of our life priority – and part of feeling like we are where we need to be is excepting that it is ok not to have to do it all, not to have it all together all the time.

When my children were all small I chose to stay home with them and do the playgroup, hang out with other mums, go to Mothers Of Preschoolers thing, that’s what I wanted to do so I did. But if I had wanted to go back to work I would have and that would have been ok too. It’s not about one right way or feeling guilt for the choices we make – it’s about respecting each other’s journey and choices and taking the time to breathe along the way. At other times study has been important (now having two diplomas and several certificates under my belt), at other times my health or someone else’s health have taken centre stage – what happens is not always what we choose.

But take the time to breathe, to sit in the sunshine, relax in the bubble bath, binge watch your favourite shows, read your favourite books (my bible is one of mine) – enjoy your own company. You are unique, special, loved, important. And part of self- care is to keep up-to-date with looking after your health, home, and bills. Mothers day is coming – get there refreshed, renewed – So even if hubby forgets it’s mothers day, or theres no hubby to forget, or the kids burn the toast and argue all day or your babies are in heaven, – you can sit in peace, rest, smile and enjoy the small things. Remember even Jesus withdrew for his own time.

Yet he (Jesus) frequently withdrew to the wilderness to pray.. Luke 5:16. 

Blessings Skye x


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Sensuality & Sexuality

A lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Proverbs 5:19 ESV 

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Sex, Eros, Intimacy….. what goes on behind closed 🚪 doors. It is everywhere – the internet, the media, bill boards, magazines, television – it is used to sell products, to interest us in TV shows, to entice us to buy a type of car, eat a certain chocolate, listen to certain music. Generally we don’t go through a day without seeing or hearing sexual innuendo, living in a society that is saturated by sex – now we have groups for sexual addiction, instead of male or female – we are told ‘be whatever you want to be’ which comes with so many choices. With all this freedom and choice that must mean everyone is comfortable with their own sexuality, their own bodies, everyone must have great sex lives right?

Sexual means – relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction or intimate physical contact between individuals.  (google search, sexual means).

Wrong – unfortunately many people are desensitised by the sexual saturation around us – so if our partner don’t look like a model, perform like a porn star then we lose interest – the intimacies and familiarity in a relationship that should draw people closer for many feels boring as it is not like the TV series where it is exciting, fresh and new every episode. Our sexuality can be damaged by trauma and abuse where being intimate with someone can trigger memories, shame and distress. Others can carry guilt and shame – connected to past relationships that we bring with us into new ones. The intimacy that comes with sex connects us on a spiritual level – and can cause damage when we give it out to anyone.

Over the years I have heard many stories where what goes on behind closed doors is not working. Women who have been abused and hate their own body, have trauma triggers, and hate intimacy or complete disconnection where sex with strangers means nothing as they don’t even feel present. Men who cannot have sex or get aroused without levels of porn to get them there. Marriages where sex just fizzles out – “we had kids”, “we got busy”, “he works lots”, “I’m so tired”…. “we had lots of sex early on but not now”.

We are holistic beings – body, mind and spirit. Our sexuality is part of us – an important part of us and like everything else in life and in our relationships – it needs to be nurtured, worked on.

If your relationship or if you are struggling in this area then there are some things that can help –

Get in touch with your sensuality (not your sexuality) your sensuality is  “the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure. synonyms: sexiness, sexual attractiveness, voluptuousness, sultriness, seductiveness, passion; the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses.”life can dazzle with its sensuality, its colour”. (google search sensuality).

Sensuality can be connected to sex, it can lead to sex or it can be expressed in many other ways that can create intimacy – using our senses. Try engaging with your partner in this way – remember dating when all your senses were aware of the other person, when their hand touched yours and it was electric.  If the bedroom is causing issues because it’s triggering trauma, it’s been so long you don’t know where to start, it isn’t a priority anymore then try and go back to dating, spending time together without the pressure of sex, spending time creating intimate moments that put love in the love bank. Have a massage together, give each other a massage without any expectations,  skinny dip somewhere alone! Have a midnight picnic on your bed, go out and ‘meet’ at a cafe as if for the first time. Make time for each other – the kids, the family, and work are important, so are our leisure activities, volunteer and church commitments but our relationship with our significant other – our intimate connection is important as well.

Make a space (if you can) that is for the two of you only – a bedroom covered in kids toys, kids DVDs, chips in the bed and kids in the bed all the time makes it hard to connect. Remember the person you fell in love with, thinking about them so you couldn’t sleep, texting about nothing and everything till all hours of the morning. God made us body (physical / sensual / sexual), soul (who we are / personality / passions / friendship) and spirit (Connection)  Enjoy who God made you to be and remember God created our sensuality and our sexuality – stay connected, be friends with your lover.

* If you are struggling with trauma, sexual dysfunction / issues, guilt / shame about your sexuality – see a doctor or therapist – this is not in place of those supports.

Blessings Skye x


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Only Western society needs a word like DECLUTTER!

I was talking to some teens recently about our society and I came to a question, a notion really – we live in such a fast pace, materialistic, state of consummerism – where we have more than we need (generally), we waste constantly, take all our modern anemeties forgranted, we have fast food (which isn’t fast enough), microwave meals (that aren’t fast enough), fake hair, breasts, tans, nails (which I enjoy from time to time) and more… what is too much? When is enough ENOUGH?

I have spent at least two years trying to declutter my life – we have 5 children still at home so it’s no easy feat! But I go through each room at least twice a year and get rid of clothes, DVDs, books, toys, ornaments, furniture, electrical, kitchen plastics, and whatever I don’t need… before they start to pile up again. It has become my cycle of living that causes me stress – I can’t relax properly in my home as there are too many things, it’s too busy – I have to much.

The other thing I try to do regularly is be still – my life becomes cluttered with busyness – I’m involved in meaningful pursuits, some of those pursuits even help others but I lose myself in busyness – so I feel like I’m drowning in “I should be doing this”, “I need to do that”. So I regularly try to evaluate my life and the things I do And try to remember why I was created – Matthew 6:33 (ESV) But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

So what is clutter?? Cambridge English dictionary says “a collection of things lying about in an untidy state” (how my home / belongings feel) and says “a confused or disordered state or collection” (this is how busyness / my mind feels when I’m too busy). As I was talking to my teen friends I realised that probably only Western society needs a word like declutter! I’m in a group that is for people trying to declutter – it’s where we share ideas, what’s working and not working – it’s like a support group for people addicted to clutter. This led me to think about –

What is excess?? As we definitely have it – Google dictionary says “an amount of something that is more than necessary, permitted or desirable”, says “lack of moderation especially in eating or drinking”, “immoderate indulgence” or “the state of exceeding what is normal or proper”.  This linked to clutter – we indulge in what we don’t need, we have a huge obesity epidemic (and I’m speaking for myself to), we overindulge as a society and have too much – Alcoholics Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous, new gyms and fad diets starting every other week, sex addict groups. How can we as a society change our thinking – the bible says Matthew 6:25-34 (NIV)

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

I read this and think wow I worry about so many things, have enough clothes to wear a different outfit every day for the next 2 years, enough DVDs that I may never leave the couch again, so much stuff! I want a life that is uncluttered from materialism, busyness, and a mind that trusts God and is uncluttered from worry. And I also want to say I know what it’s like to have little, I have experienced poverty (from a westernised view) and been homelesshaving very little – but I could still access food, water, and things that not everyone around the world always has access  to. But what I love about life is my faith in a God, the safety I feel in my relationships – this is what really matters to me .

Jesus lived a life travelling from place to place – trusting God to provide his needs, Jesus knew This truth Philippians 4:19 (NIV)19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

I guess he was one of the first minimalists – What is minimalism?? One says “something that is characterized by extreme spareness and simplicity”.  Oh for a simple life – life can be soooo stressful – I find cleaning all we own, keeping it maintained, dusting, washing, chasing everything exhausting, the more ‘material’ things I have, the more busy I am – the more tired and stressed I am. My prayer is God gives me what I need not always what I think I want!

Blessings Skye x


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Unexpected Roads part 3. 🌹

🌹 As a young girl I planned my life – not having a fabulous upbringing, or even a safe upbringing I had dreams of how my life would look. Once I was in control! I would get married to my Prince Charming who would save me and the I would have 2 children – a boy first (which I had) and a girl second (which I had) by age 25, which I did.  Now being older I look back at what life gave me which was a very different picture with many unexpected twists and turns in the road – extreme joys, moments of bliss even – before plunging me into the depths of despair. But God has always been with me – there have been moments where I’ve felt shame, guilt, bitterness, anger and sorrow that I have moved away from God and felt alone. But God has always been there – “…Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you…” Hebrews 13:11.  So 10 pregnancies I had in total – I had 4 live births (2 were 10 weeks early), 1 child still born – a precious tiny baby Rhianna – and 4 miscarriages. Each experience has effected me differently –

🌹 I want to share about my little girl Rhianna – born to early, still born, dead, words I couldn’t say for a long time. Rhianna would have been 18 last September, and there is still grief and sadness for a life she never lived – no first steps, first birthday, first day of school, no last day of school, formal, first kiss, wedding day or baby of her own – it’s a life never lived and I grieved for the loss – the expectations I had for the sweet human growing inside of me,  but I now have mostly peace and joy for my faith and my belief that she is in heaven waiting to meet me with all my babies taken too soon, that for whatever reason my Heavenly Father knew best. “For you created my innermost being; you knit me together in my mothers womb” Psalm 139:13. 

🌹 I remember holding Rhianna for over an hour after her birth. I wanted to sit there for ever, it felt like time stood still as I sunk into the grief that she was gone. It was a strenuous birth – as tiny babies who pass sometime during delivery do not help the birth process, my body felt like it was betraying me as I had to do all the work knowing that at the end I wouldn’t hear the delightful cry of my newborn but there would just be deafening silence and stillness as I held my daughter dead – who was warm and soft but slowly turned to an in-natural cool. She was knit together perfectly – tiny with pearlescent skin and a reddish hue – almost seethrough, with a tiny 🌹 rosebud mouth and long eyelashes, the smallest toe and fingernails I could imagine – I don’t know what I was expecting but she was a perfect miniature little girl – I have known people who have had terminations further along than this – did people realise what they were doing?

🌹 Going back a bit Rihanna’s  pregnancy was a planned event during a very turbulous time in my life – I had a very abusive partner who I unconsciously hoped would treat me differently if I had his child. But during the pregnancy I had a lot of stress, was in a abusive situation – was held hostage – and generally very sick (as I am with all my pregnancies). Life wasn’t turning out as I planned and looking back I think I was hanging by a thread but unbeknown to me I was about to have a moment where the grief, loss and what I expected were going to throw my world into a tailspin. My decision to harden my heart against God and switch off, disconnect my communication from my Heavenly Father would compound my grief.

🌹 I was very sick, trying to rest, having 2 children aged 6 and 4 who needed to go to school, kindy, & play dates – living in fear, hypervigilance – with a highly aggressive, unstable partner – to scared to leave – not fear for what he would do to me but fear of what he could do to those I loved (more about that about her time). I was taking a high dose of anti-depressants to cope with my life. Anyway the pregnancy was going ok, and I started getting pains, felt like early labour pains, the dr said it was just my uterus adjusting – I was almost half way – to a stage that they now can save babies, but nearly 20 years ago it wasn’t heard of for babies to survive that early.

🌹 I started to leak fluid and I knew the smell – it was my waters, the water that protects my baby. I was admitted to hospital to try and stop it from getting worse – was given medication to help the pregnancy continue.

🌹 I have had a framed picture in my home since I was about 19 – it was a copy of a very old painting of a field, trees, a woman in a flowing dress… serene, beautiful – the room I had at the hospital had the same picture in it. For me it was a sign, a sign I believed from God that my baby would be ok. I felt like God was reassuring me that he was in control, he was with me, that I wasn’t alone – and God was, he WAS in control, he WAS with me, I WASN’T alone – but it didn’t mean she would be ok – I was clutching at “signs” to keep going. “The heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9. Just because I had one thought it doesn’t mean it was what a God had planned. I went to sleep that night in the hospital and awoke in the morning to a strange sensation – going to the toilet I realised that Rhianna had dropped – and there would be no stopping it now.

🌹 After she was delivered I found out I had an infection Strp B usually contracted from a partner and yes he had been sleeping with many other people – I didn’t even have anything left to contemplate that betrayal. Step B doesn’t effect much except your waters can break early if pregnant.  I left the hospital I was numb, disconnected – my dr gave me a sedative to help me to cope. My dr said “just have 2 days in 7 where you don’t take 1 and then you won’t become dependant on them”…. I just took them till I could cope with the pain… dependant, addicted I became. Then my dr said “let’s just deal with the grief and then we will look at the addiction”. The sedatives numbed the grief, numbed my life, helped me block out the abuse – it was not a natural way to handle my pain, my grief – we all have moments when we grieve and we progress through the emotions – back and forth – sorrow, anger, denial, acceptance – but I didn’t move through these for several years as I numbed it all with sedation – which numbed the bad stuff but also the good feelings, emotions as well. God says there is a season for everything – “a time tco weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to 💃 dance…” Ecclesiastes 3:4. I didn’t allow the grief to come, to feel how the loss effected me, and I felt like the dance, the laughter didn’t  re-enter my life for some time.

🌹 When I look back contemplating who she may have been as an 18 year old I see that time heals, she will always be part of me – but by the grace of God I keep living, keep loving and keep giving. God has been the healing in my life, blessed me with more children and now step-children, soon children-in-law which I’m sure will be followed by grand-children. My quiver is full and I am blessed. I don’t believe God ‘took’ her from me, he allowed it to happen and I can’t answer why, but I’ve grown, trusted God more, and know he has a plan for me, plans for my good, not evil, to give me a future and a hope… (Jeremiah 29:11).

Blessings Skye x




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Embrace the Change (and other New Years Resolutions)

As this year is close to ending I have just been re-reading my Bible Study fellowship notes on Revelation that I did in 2016 and am starting to feel challenged for 2017… in a way that is different than my average “New Years Resolutions”. I do want to eat better, go to bed earlier (it’s 2:20am), and seriously exercise more!! But it’s more than that.

2016 was all about “changes” for me –

Change – the act or process wherein something becomes different.

Change of lifestyle – to not just say ‘yes’ to every random thing I was asked to do – but to consider my time, my families time, what I have to give and what my limitations were. Was I being asked to do something that would benefit someone else more if they did it for themselves? To think about my ‘yes’, and to try and not live in guilt for my ‘no’.

“Cast all your anxieties on him because he cares for you, 1 Peter 5:7”

The above change was influenced by changes to my health – having fibromyalgia, where I knew I needed to look at how I do things and use my time differently.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, Philippians 4:13” 

Changes for my children – more than one huge issue affecting my children this year which of course effected me – as that is what being a parent is about – this year saw me become a carer as one of my children started open access (doing school at home) – this has been a huge change for her but also to how I ‘do’ life – she is with me or close by most of the time – and I have had to navigate how to be available for her needs, meet my own and those of my new husband and family.

“Children are a heiritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him, Psalm 127:3”

Change in my environment – a big move so new suburb, far away from what I knew – new shops, new streets, new schools, new workplaces (but same job) – it can be exciting, but also isolating when nothing is familiar and it took time for my girls and I to settle into this – we are still adjusting.

“For I know the plans I have for you”, says the Lord,  Jeremiah 29:11″

New churches – this isn’t as easy as it sounds – we are a large family and finding a ‘fit’ for all of us so we are fed, challenged, feel at home, and can offer something is a working progress – a great youth, but no children’s church or awesome children’s church and 3 youth… I know we will end up where we are meant to be if we persevere and keep looking… and I know that being with my husband, children or friends can be ‘church’ as we are the church here to live our lives as an example to others – not a sinless, judging example but as a grace covered sinful human being called to care for all.

“Seek God with all your heart, Jeremiah 29:13”

Getting married, becoming a ‘blended family’ so a huge change in family dynamics. Iv’e never been a step-mother before, my husband has never been a step-father, our children learning to live together and share our time with all their needs, has definitely been interesting. As the verse says love – we have learnt to breathe and love – not always in perfect unity – but to bring this many together and ‘blend’ at our age – love has led to listening and compromise.

“And above all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity, Colossians 3:14” 

Change of job for the new year – I have been working in childcare for a long time and now I’m going into something new for 2017 that encompasses my faith as well as being my job – a pastoral care support worker. I’m nervous and excited for what this will bring into my life and what I will be able to offer others.

“Forget the former things, I am doing a new thing, Isaiah 48:13, 19” 

When I look at this list (and I’m sure there would be more if I kept writing) I am brought to 2017 which for me is about “embracing” the changes from 2016 –

2017 “embracing” –

settling into the changes, the new roles, embracing my new environment, embracing my new marriage, blended family, embracing my role as a pastoral care worker… I realise I’m living the changes and they all feel like my life now – I went through the process where things in my life became different which also initiated internal processes that caused changes to the way I see the world.  But I’m excited that I can “embrace” them, I’m ready for 2017

Embrace – the act of accepting something willingly or enthusiastically, To hold close, in affection…. 

I am challenged to remember that I’m not here just to live each day knowing that I am going to a better place (heaven) so now doesn’t matter – but to be motivated by the knowledge of the heavenly future I believe is in store to live a Godly life now. Now is the time to be committed to living a Godly life, honouring God in my actions, attitudes and choices. God directs us to live holy and to be a witness so that the world may see Christ in us. I have had a very long journey to get here, to think this way and not every day is easy, or filled with constant joy and ☀️  and 🍭- but when it feels crap, hard or I start to sink in a hole – I try to come back to this –

“God is within her, she will not fall. Psalm 46:6”

Blessings Skye X


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I have had some interesting conversations over the last few days which have challenged me about the way I see others, what I assume when I look at people, and what do people think when they look at me. We can all look at the sky and we will all see something different, perceive it differently – a new hue, a shape that to me looks like a flower but to someone else looks like nothing at all.


I went to my physio today, a polite, a mild mannered Chinese man, who does acupuncture and helps me have control over my pain levels, with a huge wall length display of Buddha in his office. I have been going there for a while and I had ‘assumed’ that the Buddha display was part of his ‘religion’, what he identified with, that we wouldn’t have much in common. We were chatting as usual, and I was talking about my job and how I am looking to start  working in a new field, and my role will be as part of a church – all of a sudden he became very animated – talking about the Australian Chinese Christian Church he had been involved in founding 20 years ago, how he had preached the last 4 Sundays out of 5. We talked about our churches, the sadness we both felt for aging churches that seem to be disappearing, our passion for children and youth ministry, how we had both studied at Tabor and what we had got out of it. I felt some shame that upon meeting him, seeing the full length Buddha in his office and his use of acupuncture I had put him in a ‘religious’ cultural box based on my assumptions from movies, my limited knowledge of someone else life, and it wasn’t the first time this had happened this week.

Earlier in the week I was talking to a woman from India I have been getting to know – she has been in Australia nearly 10 years, came from India all alone, knowing no-one, studied here and now works in a field she enjoys. She is single and has a busy fulfilling life. I once again ‘assumed’ that she would have a large community of friends that have a similar cultural background to her, the ‘Indian Community’ events she called them. Because if I went to a foreign country alone; I would think that I would find security and comfort with people who have a similar background to me. But when we talked about it she told me that all her friends she has met through, work, study, etc. She explained to me she came to this country as she wanted to embrace the lifestyle here – she is in her 30’s, single, working and doesn’t have to explain to anyone why she has chosen to live this way  – she loves the freedom to make her own choices. Once again my assumptions about her life were wrong- then she explained to me how she has been here nearly 10 years and not been involved in her ‘community’ from her homeland as she feels they will see her as a failure and not understand why she is unmarried and hasn’t had children – but I was left wondering if she would feel that rejection or if that was just her ‘assumption’.

In the past few months I have had people who I meet saying to me when they are in crisis “Skye you won’t understand” – they look at me married happily, in my large house, driving my pretty car, managing my children, my job, my study.  But this is what they assume about me – they don’t know my health issues, my struggles to manage, to juggle, to do what I need to. They don’t see my history – dysfunctional, damaged, surviving. Which brings me to the people who have known me a long time that I bump into who assume my life is messy, that I don’t manage or function well as they still see the me where I came from.

We can not assume anything about anyone regardless of where they come from, their sexuality, their religious affiliations, their socioeconomic status, ability or disability. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). We are all different, with different feelings, thoughts, experiences, functional abilities and aspirations. We need to embrace the differences, enjoy the uniqueness and not assume we know the journey another has walked.

Blessings Skye X


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The little things

My favourite broke, my new one, bone china 75c at the salvos


Be still and just breathe

Sometimes you just have to take note of the little things, which I have been reminded of a few times lately, it has been a stressful few weeks.

* study, assignments piling up, tutors wondering where I am plus a child who home schools and hasn’t handed up any work this term! Opps

* new medication for one of my children, changing the dose every couple of days and seeing how she goes – it’s the 4th change this year – hopefully we get somewhere, please Lord don’t let this one make her worse!

*After 2 decades on a particular medication myself – I come off of my medication and have nothing for a week… Good times are had by all – I didn’t feel too bad or have to many side effects (but more on that another time), but my pain levels did hit the roof, can’t lift my coffee, put my feet on the ground some days but a new medication is to be started; which I’m on now and it’s starting to be worth the change.

*someone else close to me struggling, trying to support them the best I can – 2am phone calls, being there to help, encourage and love, clean their house, look after them.

*First my husbands car breaks down and needs to be towed and then my car breaks down -but at least his is fixed now so we have one to share in our business every day.

*another family member needs doctors and some specialist appointments amongst it all.

*haven’t been working for a while – as I have been in the Carers role for my lovely daughter with autism / schizophrenia which I feel is where I’m meant to be at the moment – so money is really tight but God provides – three times this week when I needed something someone approached me and age it tome as they felt like God wanted them to support me and my family in a particular way – we are blessed amongst it all.  “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches and glory in Christ Jesus”  Philippians 4:19. 

*my husband goes away for a weekend Christian retreat, and I go away on the same weekend for some training in a ministry I’m involved in – 5 children organised in care!! But what a shambles to organise and if it could go wrong it did, “how do you do it?” People ask – I seriously don’t know!

*driving to a training day through the country I saw the most beautiful sunrise and God saying “be still and know that I am God” psalm 46:10. I breathed deep amongst all the stress I had been having and business -life just gets stressful and busy it is the nature of the life we live. But this sunrise, the beautiful clouds were one of my moments of calm, one of the little things in my week.

*my husband and I had our first big row ever – it was bad and slightly ridiculous looking back – but at the time feelings were hurt, things were said and there were mixed messages – I love the women in my life, God given friends who talk me down off the ledge of crazy sometimes, who know me well and can point out when I’m being a little crazy.

*Amongst all this my daughter who never goes anywhere had 3 events – she was in an art show, won a poetry award and has an opening for a new business that she’s involved in – one proud mumma here, but it added to the busy!

*then sickness hits me, 2 days in bed so far and there will be more – but it makes me stop, refocus, pray, sometimes we get too busy, but God has a way of stopping us in our tracks and drawing us back in.

*and just the everyday cooking, cleaning, meetings, appointments, shopping, children, “MUM, MUM, MUM!!”, maintain friendships, seeing my husband somewhere in it all. Deciding it’s time to downsize and focus on what’s important. (More on that another time too).

*the other day my favourite cup fell to the floor, crash it smashed into tiny pieces. I felt sad, last week it was my favourite glass – we have lots of children, so move on I guess. Wandering around the salvos with one of my daughters I found a lovely bone china cup – just pretty, delicate and beautiful – 75c.  As I sit here smiling, sipping my tea watching a show I enjoy while the children sleep and no one needs me just this second – I realise it’s the small little things that get me by, the little reminders that a God loves me – a new teacup to replace a broken one, a gorgeous sunrise when I feel life’s clouds are heavy, others supporting me when they have no possible way of knowing what I needed.

I am reminded of Gods love for me, his provision for all my needs and the needs of my family and loved ones. It may not always happen in a way we want, or the way we would do it, but his ways are perfect. “As for God, his ways are perfect” psalm 18:30.

Blessings Skye X

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